She is the 'extra' that a man decides to keep on the side ...a.k.a 'side chick', the one known by most of his friends and definitely NOT by his in-laws or in-laws to be.
She is the secret 'pleasure' on the side and in most cases, she doesn't even know it!
So many ladies are 'the other woman' without knowing it - especially if the man is young, dashing and irresistible, but already married or in a serious relationship, and fails to reveal his status.
We all know the other woman is always at a disadvantage, she invests her emotions, time, energy and in some cases - money.
It's no fun being the other woman - that i can tell you for a fact. here's a story from a good friend:
Jane (not her real name) works in a well known multinational company in Lagos, Nigeria. Jane considered herself a career woman and did not have time for dating, what's the point of dating and risking falling in love - which she knew would eventually tie her down emotionally and probably slow down the progress and goals she would like to achieve in the least time possible.
Jane met Paul at an interactive session between her company and another multinational firm. In her word's, ' I wasn't on the look out to get involved with anyone soon', I have had my fair share of relationships and I realized, i often get side tracked and unfocused in achieving my set-goals, which would be understandable if my dates more often than not end up being complete jerks!
Paul was one of the guest speakers for the other multinational firm, where he had come to speak about the economic situation and how the oil price decline had been crippling the economy. We got talking during the networking session and to be honest, 'I can't remember seeing Paul with a ring on his finger - on any finger at all, so i assumed, in my sub- conscious...he's got to be 'unmarried'.
Paul - tall, dark, well spoken, calm demeanor, and he had a 'swag'. These got me intrigued, and before anyone could put a pen on it, we started seeing each other - it was inevitable, says Jane.
The 'honeymoon' didn't last long. The calls started to be less frequent and few in between, he became distant, preoccupied, snapped at any slight opportunity whenever he felt like it, but i was blind to all these - its true the affected person is always the last to realize he/she had been taken for a ride (or fool).
Office grapvine can be a blessing or curse - depending on which side of the coin strikes you. Paul and I were not in the same company, but we were in the same industry - so not much difference really, says Jane. By the time i heard and confirmed Paul was married, a lot of water had passed under the bridge. i left the relationship, of course heartbroken (he was too smooth to be true), but I guess I was blind to see the obvious signs - they were there all along.
Ladies, look , look and look again before you take a step or a leap!
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