According to sex advice expert Ian Kerner, as seen on cosmopolitan online magazine, he laid out 10 commandments that should be followed for first-time sex ever or with a new guy.
1. Safety First. Ensure he's wearing a condom (even if you're on a pill) and talk about your respective sexual histories (if any).
2. Don't have too -high expectations. Sex generally improves as you get to know someone and become more comfortable with each other's bodies.
3. Breathe. First time sex can be tense and nerve-wracking, not to mention painful sometimes. Relax and let go.
4. Don't forget to enjoy foreplay. All the stuff that leads up to intercourse - kissing, touching, oral sex - is part of the sexual experience, not just penetration.
5. Ensure you're amply aroused before intercourse. Not only do you want to be genuinely turned on, you want to be sufficiently lubricated.
6. Speak up. Let him know what feels good and what doesn't.
7. Don't assume he's the expert. He may be getting a lot of his information about sex fro porn and the tall tales of his buddies in the locker room. If he's experienced, every sexual encounter is unique.
8. Don't expect to have an orgasm. It's great if you do - but most women don't climax the first few times with a new guy.
9. Don't fake it. If you do, you'll be cheating on yourself. Letting him know will keep him motivated.
10. His penis may malfunction. Guys get anxious too. Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction are common the first time a man is with someone. If this happens, don't make a big deal out of it or worry about it - more than likely, it will work itself out.
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