Every adult craves to experience orgasm with their partners - however, not all especially women get to experience it at all. It's quite nice if a woman can orgasm during intercourse, below are a few tips I'll like to share:
1. Know your body. Before you can have an orgasm during intercourse, I suggest you learn your own body what turns you on, and perhaps have an orgasm outside of intercourse. This can be done by yourself or with a partner but it is very important to know what turns you on.
2. Set the stage. With your partner get the bedroom set up so it is pleasing to the eye, smells nice, is the right temp, and put on some music you like. You want to be completely comfortable in the bedroom. The last thing you want is distractions from the room or the phone.
3. What is intercourse to you? Think of all the wonderful things you enjoy from intercourse on an emotional level. His breath against your ear, his heart beating next to yours, the warmth of your bodies, holding him during orgasm and filling you up, etc. It can be a deep bonding experience even without your orgasm. Open yourself up to this energy.
4. Share yourself. The pleasure of release or orgasm is a wonderful thing. Nobody gets to see you release except your partner. You are sharing that pleasure with him by reaching orgasm with him inside you. Having him hold you during release and do things to help you release may cause you to feel vulnerable at first but it is really wonderful. It is like a gift.
5. The mind has to be turned on. For all of us men and women the mind is the biggest sex organ. If you get the mind turned on, the rest will easily follow. You can play a scenario, read an erotic book together, or watch a movie.
6. Try oral sex before. Have him go down on you first. He can get you close or give you an orgasm so you are ready to have another during intercourse.
7. In general most women need clit stimulation. If you look at a woman's anatomy the clit sits at the top of the vagina mainly outside under the hood. So it needs to rub against something for the woman to release. If the man is on top, he can move up so his pubic bone is rubbing on her clit while he is inside. Or if she is on top in the Cowgirl position she can grind her clit on him. If this is what will help the woman to release then do it. Know it is okay for one person the woman or the man to manually play with the clit during intercourse.
8. Talk, encourage, move. Remember to let your partner know when he is getting it right. If it feels good say so, but be yourself. Move your hips, your body, with your partner. Feel free to touch parts of his body that turn you on. You are taking this journey of pleasure together. Your movements will increase your own pleasure but also tell him you are enjoying yourself and want pleasure and release as much as he does. This is very important to most men.
9. Aftercare. Once you have had intercourse and are laying in each others arms, this is a good time for aftercare and pillow talk. You can tell him how wonderful something he did was so he will know to do it again. I had a girlfriend tell me 20 years ago, "Where did you learn that circular thrusting technique? That is awesome!" Men don't usually forget compliments and comments like that.
10. It is okay if it does not happen. It may take a while to orgasm during intercourse while for some women it may not happen at all. If it does not happen don't worry about it or make it that big of a deal.Trying too hard to make it happen may just leave you sad. Like I mentioned above, there is some great bonding during intercourse even without you both enjoying orgasm. Having and sharing pleasure with your partner is what is most important.
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