An important IvyTrotterChick Blog Visitior (Ivy BV) decided to give some tips on women. We thought it's worth sharing as a post on it's own.
Here are some thoughts and tips for women in helping their man last longer in bed.
1. If your partner is having trouble lasting longer in bed, the best thing you can do is support him in a loving way. He will probably already feel bad, so do your best to make him feel better and that it does happen sometimes. Even better if he is able to talk to you about it and let you help out in several ways I list below. Most of all ladies do not blame yourself, you can help but it is not your fault.
2. What is your goal in intercourse? If it is mutual orgasm for example than you can help out by making sure he knows what pleases you, when you are getting close, etc. This is where you can really help, but you need to know your own body. If not, then explore with your partner, before intercourse.
3. Get to know your man. While I see on TV and the internet how important it is for a man to know a woman's anatomy, I feel the same is true for women. Learn to give your man oral or manual stimulation and learn what turns him on. Watch him when he is getting close, and when he orgasms, all of those signs will be present during intercourse. But not just his penis, look at areas on his whole body and what turns him on.
Example: Firm pressure and up and down movement of a woman's hand on my penis will cause me to eventually orgasm. Not all guys are the same, but this is probably true for most men. So when they enter the woman for the first time she is naturally tight (the firm pressure) and begin thrusting (the same as the up and down movement) they are set up to orgasm fairly quickly.
4. Once you learn what turns your man on, then you can use that knowledge to help him last longer. If he really enjoys your breasts, keep them in your lingerie until you are ready for him to orgasm. Regarding 3 above, have him enter you only after you are very wet, and you will not be as tight. Move your hips and do some side to side thrusting while he is deep inside. In this way there is less in/out movement so he will last longer.
5. Positions. Explore different positions and you may find ones that he lasts longer than others. For me the doggie position is one I don't last too long at, so I avoid it until near the end of our play. The cowgirl position is great for the woman because she can be on top, control the thrusting, like side to side movement or grinding that I mentioned above. Also she can grab her man's balls and lightly pull them away from his body to help him last longer.
6. Maybe consider starting off with oral to orgasm. His 2nd orgasm will take much longer and cause him to last longer. Or have him give you an oral orgasm and then when he enters you, he is mind is at ease that the goal then is not mutual orgasm just his orgasm and you can use techniques above to help him last longer.
7. Most of all communication is important. If you can talk about things it is much easier. There are so many things that he can do like cock rings and condoms that help but would be nice to have your approval and smile. It is all about pleasing someone you truly care for in the bedroom. It leads to some deep bonding I feel.
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